Lisa Kelly

Transgender/LGBT activist
AGE: 49
HOMETOWN: York UK
EMAIL: akakelly69da@gmail.com



Do a google image search for a stereo-typical male and female.

Here's what you get, a stereo typical male is 6'2" short mousy hair, well toned body with rippling muscles, nice '6 pack' and big feet, and for a female you get 5'4" long blonde hair, blue eyes, heaving bosom and small feet.

Now take a look around at everyday people in the street and how many match those stereo types? Hardly any. That is society's own false perception of people in general and it gets far worse if you look up a stereo typical gay male, a lesbian or transgender person, each one is so far away from actual reality and paints the LGBT community in an awful light, so it's hardly surprising at all that it is so difficult for a a transgender person to actually transition hassle free or abuse free.


When a transgender female begins to transition, the vast majority will not yet have commenced permanent facial hair removal, and hiding that "5 o'clock shadow" means a lot of make up, something which is fine on a night time if going out, but during the day time, if you want to blend in to society un noticed, is problematic.

Throw into the mix the added obstacles of the transgender female quite possibly being over 6' tall (the average height for women is 5'4"-5'6" meaning 6'+ makes you stand out) possibly having very broad shoulders and square chin, quite probably having large feet and large hands, all of which are not common place in women, and then you can easily see why a lot of transgender females in early transition encounter problems.

Stereo Types - driven by society - Far right are the 'Google image search' results

Society and how we perceive people to be, mean that anything drifting too far away from what is seen as the normal, attracts attention.

Transgender people are extremely self conscious, often nervous in the early stages and very often low on self confidence to start with.

Anything that attracts that extra attention, only lowers any remaining self belief and confidence, and adds to the mounting doubts that a transgender person can have about being able to live a reasonable life in their true gender.

I can say from experience that it does get a whole lot better the deeper into transition that you get, but try telling that to someone just taking their first baby steps along the transition road, and it will not sink in, which is a big factor in why the attempted suicide rate among transgender people is well over 40% of all transgender people.

It is a natural thing to do, taking that 2nd glance at something that does not fit 'your' normal, we all do it.

I ask those of you who read this, to try and avoid that 2nd glance, normally we all have a fleeting look, and then glance back at something, so try taking a longer first look and cut out the need for that 2nd glance.

Stereo Types.